Anger? How it builds up?

I've been struggling with depression, coping and grieving, but nothing confused and disoriented me like inner anger; as a young girl, I used not to show my anger, and as a young woman, it's been growing and tearing me apart.

At first glance, how anger is defined: as annoying and hostile. Could I always feel angry, and how long can I accumulate all of it? - Once I wrote this sentence, the inner voice just yelled - Why? Why would you accumulate it? Why don't you express it?

- Fear. Fear of letting everyone down, fear of sounding hysterical, and fear of expressing emotions openly. These emotions are associated with women, so am I sexist towards my expressiveness?

- But, seriously, neuroticism aside, which emotions are behind the anger? - and that's where it gets interesting ' anger iceberg',

The Gottman Institute first coined us. The basic idea is that once the barring of harmful or unpleasant emotions emerges, our mind feels angry to point out the problem.

The anger I feel for not expressing enough comes from growing shame for being misunderstood and worse.

The answer is easy, even though its implementation could be difficult and painful.

-" You need to hear and express any emotion from inside right away." but how the f*ck to do it without hearting others, crying into the pillow, boxing imagining your boss's face? Sometimes it could be as easy as that, but sometimes it's not.

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